Adoptive Dad 26: Step Towards Independence but Not Aloneness

Last night on Nov 13 was a big step for my 4-year-old boy. He slept by himself in his own bed, in his own room for the very first time. This morning when I saw him, I asked him, “Did you sleep in your own bed last night?” He beamed with a big smile andContinue reading “Adoptive Dad 26: Step Towards Independence but Not Aloneness”

Adoptive Dad 23: But I’m Not Like You

Dear Josiah, My little Jai Jai, adoption is something that is still not understood very well these days. Adoption is not common. So, one day when you go to school, some of your schoolmates or friends might ask you questions that could bother you. They aren’t being mean. They just don’t understand. Some of yourContinue reading “Adoptive Dad 23: But I’m Not Like You”

Foster Dad 20: You Don’t Have to Be Here

The child attorney told us, “You don’t have to be here,” a statement that echoed what all the other attorneys, FFA social workers, and DCFS social workers told us, that we don’t need to be present at the court hearings regarding our foster child. Our current DCFS social worker repeatedly reiterated to us that fosterContinue reading “Foster Dad 20: You Don’t Have to Be Here”

Foster Dad 17: How My Foster Son Helps Me Be a Better Man

How we see ourselves in light of another is fascinating.  Given what I know about where my foster son has come from, I look forward to what he can become.  But when I look at my foster son’s face, I realize the things in myself that I wouldn’t want him to model after.  When IContinue reading “Foster Dad 17: How My Foster Son Helps Me Be a Better Man”

Foster Dad 16: The Best Thing To Hear From The Parents

The parents of Lil Guy wrote something to my wife and I that we never expected to read, but was the best thing they could ever tell us.  We’re about to visit Lil Guy this weekend for the second time, since we returned him to his parents over a month and half ago.  This visitContinue reading “Foster Dad 16: The Best Thing To Hear From The Parents”